tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post876470735982444965..comments2023-09-25T04:35:05.908-05:00Comments on A Graceful Disaster: When my kid hits your kidAliRosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11332421707803139102noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-34163697607343851492012-05-08T21:00:42.974-05:002012-05-08T21:00:42.974-05:00What a brave post, so honest and raw. Hang in ther...What a brave post, so honest and raw. Hang in there---I think we've all been there at one time or another!Julia Gooliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13784248013181090775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-50037235949245576012012-05-08T14:48:21.929-05:002012-05-08T14:48:21.929-05:00Oh buddy, that would be so frustrating. But you a...Oh buddy, that would be so frustrating. But you and Dan are awesome parents...it's totally not you! I agree with everything Suzi said :) Isla hasn't hit anyone (aside from me) so I don't have any experience with it, but it really sounds like you are doing everything right! It will pass. Isla has been hit by a boy before, and I never once thought the mom was a bad parent or had any judgement about her. Kids will be kids...so don't worry what people think!Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008620299775705584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-25780827855029726652012-05-07T20:59:04.424-05:002012-05-07T20:59:04.424-05:001. You are a wonderful, AMAZING mom.
2. My theory...1. You are a wonderful, AMAZING mom.<br /><br />2. My theory is that once he is able to fully communicate what he's feeling, this hitting will stop. In my experience working with children who have physical behaviors, the children who tend to 'hit' more or show physical aggression just have a difficult time articulating how they feel. He is only 2 1/2, and is still learning about the world, his surroundings, and his peers. When Kellen gets frustrated because he can't communicate something, he just screams or cries. With Gus, he is just acting out in a different way...he isn't the first 2 1/2 year old to hit, and won't be the last ;)<br /><br />3. From the perspective of a teacher, I think you are responding exactly the way you should. Immediate response, logical consequence. Distract and redirect. That's all you can do.<br /><br />**HugsFreckleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01906720332642191078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-70815194351468788992012-05-07T20:29:27.206-05:002012-05-07T20:29:27.206-05:00Aw man, this sucks. I remember when my mom & b...Aw man, this sucks. I remember when my mom & baby group had our gathering around when the babies turned 1, one of the boys was just biting everyone, constantly - the mom just burst into tears eventually - I remember her saying something like "I just wonder what's WRONG with him, is he going to be a sociopath or something?" If only we could just have a view into the future to see that this ENDS and that they all turn into relatively normal people...<br /><br />Annie so far has always been the victim of this (perhaps even from "Baby Mama" aka Allison's daughter ;) and like her, I almost never judge the kid, especially if they are showing some sort of remorse or if it seems good natured. I know it has to be SO hard to know what to do in those situations - our neighbor's daughter hits Annie nearly every time we hang out (which is several times a week) - and they always give her a time out and talk to her about it - it's been going on for almost a year now with no signs of stopping. Just a phase... a long one, and a hard one to deal with on both sides, but... a phase. It sucks though.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928807868790599467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-34925765458200359462012-05-07T16:38:30.613-05:002012-05-07T16:38:30.613-05:00Oh buddy, I'm sorry you're feeling all the...Oh buddy, I'm sorry you're feeling all these things. No one should have to feel that way, especially not you, an amazing mother that I can only hope to be like someday (and I'm not just saying that). But I get it. It stinks. I imagine I'd feel the same way. <br /><br />Just keep remembering that it is just a phase that will pass. I've certainly witnessed the hitting stage with family members and other kids I've babysat, and they grow out of it as quickly as they started it. I was a hitter myself when I was little, and I'm sure my parents felt a lot like you do.<br /><br />Gus is a sweatheart, and I can't imagine anyone who actually knows him would judge him (or you) or think anything but positively towards him. His energy, spirit, charm, sweetness...he's just right. And hopefully this hitting phase will be behind him before you know it. Hang in there!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04427763668353870765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-64480192599974716212012-05-07T12:26:07.423-05:002012-05-07T12:26:07.423-05:00Sometimes my kid has been the hitter and sometimes...Sometimes my kid has been the hitter and sometimes the hittee. Right now, she's been good, no hitting. Last year, she was the hitter. I think every kid goes through stages. Honestly, I don't judge other parents for when their kid hits, only how they react to it. And although there's no one right way, there are definitely wrong ways. When parents laugh and brush it off, I judge them. When parents don't take the time to at least attempt to let their child know what a big deal it is, I judge them. But beyond that, who knows? It sounds like you're doing what you can and you should continue to do what you can, but also try not to beat yourself up. <br /><br />He's had a lot of changes lately. He may just not know how to process them, and just reacts in ways he doesn't understand. Unrelated, but my daughter always wants to eat a bunch when she's really tired. I think she can't separate her needs, and gets confused by them. I think that at this age it all gets tangled up in their brain and the way they react may be unrelated to their feelings. This too shall pass, best of luck....Baby Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02710478317948838046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-51523539661940781182012-05-07T07:22:46.453-05:002012-05-07T07:22:46.453-05:00This made me sad just reading it! I do not judge ...This made me sad just reading it! I do not judge you or him. You and Dan are amazing parents and Gus is such a little sweatheart. He is two, it will not always be like this. Sorry you are dealing with this stage but it will pass (and hopefully soon)! Hang in there and if you even need someone to talk to I am always available! Maybe we need to get him and Colton together... maybe playing with someone bigger will make him think twice about hitting? Hang in there, you are doing everything right so don't doubt yourself anymore!Berbs33https://www.blogger.com/profile/10997549438245315622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8803341.post-30196370678720929662012-05-06T23:54:33.977-05:002012-05-06T23:54:33.977-05:00It IS frustrating, and no it won't always be l...It IS frustrating, and no it won't always be like this. <br /><br />He's growing every day. He's only two.<br /><br />Sometimes I feel like he's looking for a connection, like how Tim and Joe egg each other on, like he's trying to engage or tease.<br /><br />Other times, it's just baffling.<br /><br />He's communicating something, but WHAT? <br /><br />I'm not questioning your parenting decisions AT ALL. Nada. You guys parent no differently from else I know. You're doing everything right--every thing that's responsible and kind and encouraging, and setting limits when you must. <br /><br />He's lucky having you while he goes through this tiring stage.<br /><br />And I don't think there's some deep seated problem either. I think when his communication skills catch up with the rest of him, it'll all be history. <br /><br />I totally get the emotional component of dealing with this in the moment though, and you say it, "Stressed out and sad." Awww, honey. You are the best mom Gus could ever have, 100%.<br /><br />love you guys so much, Momvalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11225253082963245064noreply@blogger.com